37 years ago my Mom married Ray, that was when I lost my mother. Every moment after that she was totally controlled by Ray. If she paid any attention to me he got mad. So she stopped, after that I didn't exist. After I left home Ray told me not to come back.
Well Ray died last year, left his sister Gloria in charge of my mother's trust. Mother is in a rest home. Aunt Gloria hates my mother. She won't talk to Mom and is hateful to her. She wouldn't talk to anyone about the trust, even Mom.
I choose to react in love and because of that Gloria let her guard down eventually and told me that Ray's kids get the millions and I get 20k and my other two blood sisters get nothing. I could have reacted negatively in ego, but I looked at the situation, accepted it and choose to react in love. My goal has been a fair and equal result.
Now Aunt Gloria doesn't want to be in charge of the trust due to ill health and she hates Mom so my step sister Dora is taking over. Yeah! Come to find out Mom has some cash in the bank but the bulk of the money is tied up in their mansion which isn't going to sell for millions after all, but maybe one million at the most due to the housing market. What I get will make me debt free ( a focus ) and I'm very happy with that. As a matter of fact that is what all of us will be. That's fair.
However, I get more, I get my mother back, we are moving her to a rest home in the same town my other sister Pam lives in and just an hour from me, instead of six hours were she is now (and it is half the price of where she is now).
I got something more valuable than money or gold could ever be. Besides I never wanted to be fabulously wealthy moneywise.
My sister Pam didn't grow up with our mother due to our parents splitting up when I was an infant. So there is some healing going on between all of us and Mom.
What is also very important to me is keeping a harmonious relationship with ALL of my family, except Aunt Gloria.
Dora told me that Aunt Gloria has been stealing items that belong to Mom. Personally I don't care about stuff, I really have more stuff than I need. But, she is stealing from my Mother and that is elder abuse, a felony, so WE are going to have her arrested, soon.
I want to say a big THANK YOU to Eckhart Tolle. I understand so much more than Ramther ever taught me. This is truly a lesson in releasing greed.
Today Dora became the legal trustee :) In two weeks we bring Mom home! And, then the fun begins.....
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