Not everyone on EMF is understanding or trustworthy, As we just witnessed with "wolmans" recent hit and run attack..
I shall re-iterate here what I posted after this episode.
Wolfman may have had a temporary lapse of cult personality explode.
We all have that time to time recovering from such a group.
This is
not to single him out in any way as not being trust worthy.
Let me give a real life example here.
ok. I have been out for a bit over a year and a half.
From my understanding from Janja Lilich et al,
recovery from cult personality to pre cult personality takes anywhere from 1-2 years.
But again, I think the methods employed are not stressed enough.
I think using a counselor in the process is a HUGE consideration for progress.
That being said.
I am many months out have moved far far away from the toxic environment of Yelm.
I am busy putting my life together with basics for survival here in the world outside of RSE
(survival being used very differently than while IN RSE).
So, I go to list my house with yet another realtor, whom I know,
was over 24 years in RSE and has now moved on to another cult or group
involving high end management successes as a means to "personal growth".
Having been through this process several times with the same house because it did not close,
I was very familiar with the process.
So, I get the MLS agreement faxed to me.
I sign.
And I think, Walla, on the MLS.
uh...not so fast chickie.
The realtor, and me thinking that just because they are not "current" proceeds to grill me for three
weeks concerning every single nitty gritty aspect about the place just to friggin' list it.
I get everything they ask for.
Little did I know, they wait for the title to clear ( now if they had only asked, I would have
told them it was cleared twice already and it was down the street!)
With every e mail and voice mail, I am left with the feeling of absolutely pulling my hair out.
Now, I am DREADING every interaction with this person.
I don't even want to read my e mails, I REALLY don't want to check my voice mails
because every time I do, I get EXTREMELY anxious and on edge.
So, after an e mail that reads:
"I am not going to apologize for my actions.......and, let's make this a non stressful event"
I
completely snap at my friend, who has offered to help me just get through
the first stage of endeavoring to sell my house.
They are left feeling totally helpless and they say,
"you can do this on your own."
to which I reply, "Fine! I can do it on my own!"
I take myself out to breakfast, and over breakfast I realize I am having
this
insane thought process and reaction,
just as I did while in the group.
So NOW, I am sitting there, with RSE egg on my face,
and I realize I am
back into RSE way of interacting with others and reacting.
I am horrified at this point, having lashed out at my friend.
I ask to have a conversation about this and I break down crying,
again
saying,
omg, I just canNOT interact with them. They instill this craziness that I am so familiar with.
I am SOOOO sorry."
So, for those of you who feel
that you are fully "recovered"
or who do not believe " recovery" is even an issue,
I have a news flash.
Group effects do not go away over night.
Nor can they be ignored.
It is an ongoing process after years and years of indoctrination.
I hope this little story ellicits some compassion and understanding.